The countermove, in psychological
psychiatry, was to de-emphasize the search for new therapies
and initiate a trend towards the integration of standing practices
(Beutler, Consoli & Williams, 1995; Fisch, 2001; Lampropoulos,
2001; Wachtel, 1997). Though some schools of thought advocating
different types of theories based on emotional trauma had emerged
in the 20th century (Adler, 1927; Rank, 1929; Sullivan, 1953),
only a few eventually made the link between adult emotional
pathology and parental-induced emotional trauma during childhood:
the so-called Palo Alto Group (Bateson, 1972; Watzlawick, Beavin, & Jackson,
1967) which studied pathological patterns of communication;
those schools focusing on failures of early attachment (Bowlby,
1969,1973,1980; Mahler, Pine
& Bergman, 1975; Spitz, 1965); as well as the work of Janov
(1970), Casriel (1972), and Miller (1979/1981). None of these views
however became prominent in the field of psychotherapy.
In the past, any theory of
neurosis centered on childhood emotional trauma was doomed to
fail because of an understandable, sociocultural reluctance to
face the unpalatable notion, already encountered by Freud, that
neurotic psychopathology essentially stems from deficient, improper,
and/or abusive parenting rather than predestined instinctual
clashes or biological derangements of brain physiology. That
rejection was largely based on ingrained, tacit cultural prejudices
that may be subsumed under the rubric of "parental infallibility"
whereby parents supposedly always love their children—or at
least "as best they can." This notion is hard for the child
to contest since, power-wise, the parent-child relationship is perhaps
the most asymmetrical ever known.
The Traumatized Self Theory
Trauma to the Self theory
posits that humans often lack the necessary self-knowledge to raise
emotionally healthy offspring, thereby derailing the development
of the individual and our societies. Furthermore, it suggests "software
bugs" ("viruses") of the self are as transmissible
or inheritable as genetic defects in a family, inasmuch as parents
provide the genetic material to build the body as well as the information
to build up a self. Parental injury to the child's emotional self
is considered the core neurotogenic trauma, by no means excluding
that such dynamic interacts with many other factors since development
is a complex matter. Nevertheless, under usual conditions it is
the parents who mold the core developmental premise termed the
lovability principle (see later).
Thou Shall Not Be Aware.
Few observers seem to have noticed the
voices of the 1960s and 1970s that tried to revive Freud's
trauma theory. These authors included Arthur Janov (1970)
in Los Angeles, Daniel Casriel (1972) in New York, and
Alice Miller (2) (1979/1981) in Switzerland (for this
section subheading, I find it appropriate to borrow one
of her book titles,Miller, 1981/1984). Also contributing
indirectly to the development of emotional trauma theory
was the work of the late Dr. Hassan Azima at McGill University
on anaclitic therapy (Azima, 1963; Azima, Vispo,
&McKenna, 1961; Azima &Warnes, 1963; Azima &Wittkover,1957).(3)
Only Miller, however, seemed to be aware of the lineage of her work.
Casriel, Janov, and to a
lesser extent Miller, belonged to what could be called the "feel
the feelings" school. After decades of talking therapy,
psychotherapists in the 1960s began to realize that patients
harbored powerful feelings, mostly of anger and hurt. The notion
was so new and radical that Janov (1970), for one, concluded
that feeling the feelings (repressed emotional pain in his view)
was "the cure for neurosis"
Although that was not to be, it was still a considerable, positive
step. Feeling the feelings does open up the self's wounds; it does
not, however, heal them.
Daniel Casriel.
My serendipitous initiation
to trauma theory occurred as I worked with Dr. Daniel Casriel during
the late 1960s in New York City. Casriel challenged conventionality
by permitting his patients to express fully and naturally, without
suggestion of any kind, the painful feelings inflicted on the self
by a lack of love during its developmental years. Like Janov, but
not Miller, Casriel discerned a cause-effect chain of events between
the neurosis of the adult and the patient's childhood perception
and/or experience of not having been loved. Furthermore, Casriel,
in a rudimentary fashion, developed Azima's concept of gratification
(Azima & Warnes, 1963). Unfortunately, despite his writings,
of which A Scream Away From Happiness (Casriel, 1972) was the most
popular, as a pioneer in the field he did not leave a significant
imprint in the literature.
Arthur Janov.
After experimenting for nearly a decade with successive
modifications of Casriel's method at the University of Sherbrooke's
Department of Psychiatry (in Quebec, Canada), I took an extended
sabbatical leave in the late 1970s to study and undergo Primal Therapy
(4) at Arthur Janov's Primal Institute in Los Angeles. I believed
that Janov had overcome a major obstacle to putting Freud's
trauma theory into practice; namely, how to induce systematic
regression of the mind to the traumatic episode without suggestion
or invasive methods. The term regression is used, not as returning
to earlier modes of ego functioning, but as defined by Drs.
Azima and Warnes, 1963, p.62, "...the evoked events are
more than 'as if’ or 'instead’ experiences, and
ARE identical in their intensity and lived quality with their
genetic origins." And, indeed, Janov had mastered the
technique of natural regression using a modified form of spontaneous
and guided imagery. However, although Primal Therapy was the
most advanced approach I had encountered to that point, it
nonetheless presented several limitations and severe risks.
1. Excessive regression.
The patient, working in the recumbent position with dimmed lighting,
had no means of controlling the depth of regression, resulting
in premature overreaching. Too many damaged emotional files
were opened at once for the process to be therapeutic.
2. Erroneous regression to
pain.
The regression was towards
emotional pain, for Janov gave primary causal status to pain, rather
than to the anger associated with emotional aggression. Primal
work consisted mainly of sorrowful appeals by the "child" (via
the adult in regression) for love—and to a parent who had
already proved to be dysfunctional. That the course of regression
towards pain can be naturally spontaneous does not necessarily
mean it is therapeutic. Decades of experimenting with the clinical
results of pain versus anger have led me to conclude that anger,
counterattacking in self-defense, is the primary response to aggression.
Yet because the power imbalance in the parent-child relationship
keeps the child from fighting back, emotional pain does arise.
That pain sterns mostly from the derangement of the development
of the self, but also from having to repress the anger itself—a "toxic"
feeling.
3. Lack of supportive gratification.
Relying only on his regression
technique to constantly reexperience the pain of the emotional
trauma, Janov never realized that the repetitious, if hopeless,
pleading was a de facto retraumatizing of the self.
Detachment From the Introject
and the Late Separation Syndrome (LSS)
On my return from Los
Angeles in 1980 to the University of Sherbrooke, as part of my
continuing investigation of Freud's trauma theory I established
what was, to my knowledge, the first experimental clinic of anaclitic
psychotherapy (the precursor to emotional trauma psychotherapy),
as part of the Outpatient Department of Psychiatry. There, I conducted
preliminary clinical work with several collaborators, as well as
solitudinal research or self-experimentation. After about one year,
I realized that the most severe risk associated with Primal Therapy
was a repeated regression to the grieving of childhood emotional
pain, which leads to substantial detachment from, but not dislodgement
of, the dysfunctional parental introjects.(5) Dislodgement of the
dysfunctional introjects requires the deployment of the infantile
anger provoked, but also suppressed, when the emotional aggression
took place. Indeed, as explained later, anger is, in feeling (analogic)
language, the equivalent of the verbal (digital) negation "no." Thus
the end product of Primal Therapy, if carried to term, is a self
unsupported by attachment to the introjects, a destabilized self;
it thus risks the dreadful proposition of precipitating an anaclitic
state in an adult.
This excruciatingly painful
and dangerous state, described as the late anaclitic syndrome
(LAS) in ,Sousa-Poza, Eagle, Rohrberg & Steinberg (1986)
but now termed the" late separation syndrome" (LSS),(6)
is characterized by a semantic collapse whereby "nothing
means anything anymore.”
The self is isolated in the mind,(7) [literaly floating, isolated
in the vastness of the mind] detached from others and from the world;
as the only extant event in the universe, it exists in a state of
continuous fright [a sort of ultimate panic attack]. It is the near
total lack of contact with the introject that precipitates the dangerous
LSS in the adult. The self panics to the point that any negative
outcome, from psychotic break to suicide, becomes a possibility.
Needless to say, the psychophysiological response is brutal, with
intriguing parallels to the dark night of the soul described by the
grand mystics (John of the Cross, n.d./1979). It is a harrowing state,
fraught with risk and of dubious therapeutic value for the psychiatric
patient. [In my own case while doing solitudinal research, this state
was nerardeled by a repetitive, "lucid" nightmare, where
I was an astronaut walking in space and tether to the mothership
would snap.] The above observation led me to realize
that the anaclitic reaction (Bowlby, 1969, 1973, 1980; Spitz & Wolf,
1946)—referred to henceforth as the separation reaction, because
it denotes how young children react when separated from the mother
figure—is the subjacent emotional layer of neurosis. This conclusion
paved the way to creating the first framework for both a clinical
(the separation reaction) and theoretical (information and attachment
theory) basis to the field of emotional trauma theory. I postulated
that whereas regression towards anger is the "incision" that
opens the wound and excises the dysfunctional introject, systematic
nurturing/restitution is the necessary form of gratification to heal
and close it (procedures fully described in the method paper, 2005).

"Nel mezzo del cammin della mia vita mi ritrovai
per una selva oscura ..."
("In the midst of the path of my life I found myself in a dark
jungle...")
Dante
Alighieri
(Unfortunately in Dante's time there were not
yet Global Positioning Direction Finders (GPS) whereas I had a good
samaritan who let me borrow my faithful Garmin. And eventually I
found my way out of that hell. In the process however I learnt more
than I wanted to know about how the mind works because it catapulted
my mind in to the "the
other side." The side bona fide mystics work on. But I was no mystic
nor had any guidance and support to get me to the final end of the
Dark Night- which is the Reunion with the mind of the Divinity. But
be as it may, my scientifically trained mind kept taking notes constantly
trying to make sense of the "data" with the conclusion that we live
in a little corner not only of he universe, but also of our own minds
and that is that punny territory is what Male-mind thinking calls
REALITY.
The Standard Reality that always moulded the self is shoved down your and my
throat at each second of your life since you are born until you die
because - if all those forces and scenarios out of your control exist,
the racket would be over and dear brother would have to cease
the racket (narcisists are very embarrasable) because the canaving
Emperor did not even have underwear. Thus we do have "wege"
to keep the lead tight on. Therefore the lunatic political ideologies
and "isms" as
well as the dictates of the given cultures would be seeing as reflections
of the mental/spiritual derangements of the Male-mind. Try to stray
away from them and dear brother will teach you a lesson you will
NEVER forget).
The Emotional
Trauma of Separation as the Core Pathogenesis of Neurotic States
Watzlawick
et al. (1967) defined disconfirmation as the negation of the existence
of one self by another. In reference to the separation reaction
disconfirmation actually triggers subclinical, mother-child separation
events without actual physical separation. Severing the bond is
not an "all or nothing" affair; cumulative disconfirmatory
messages can achieve the same effect by gradually severing sections
of the bond. Thus, treating neurosis via the systematic retrieval
and experiencing of past emotionally traumatic events, in the absence
of appropriate gratification, can lead to the well-known pathology
of the anaclitic reaction [seperation], which unfolds in the following
classic stages:
1. Protest (anger in psychodynamic terms).
2. Depression (emotional pain in psychodynamic terms).
3. Despair (if no nurturing bond is provided to rebuild a healthy
[confirmatory] introject, there is always the risk of reaching,
at least partially, this stage and the following last, dangerous,
one).
4. Detachment (by this time the child is highly disturbed and
may not rebond even if the mother returns).
Given that
lack of proper gratification can propel a patient to the two
last stages, which in turn lead to the LSS, I immediately introduced
nurturing/restitution with the help of some of the senior female
nurses from the Department of Psychiatry. My therapeutic goal
was to forestall a patient's progress beyond the first stage
of anger. I permitted a limited expression of pain, but only
during the patient's nurturing/restitution sessions.
Outline of Previous Work
and Current Thinking
What is Disconfirmed; The
Lovability Principle and its Homologous, the Principle of (parental)
Deification
Over thirty years [going
on forty right now]of clinical observations in hundreds of patients
have permitted my early colleagues and I to confirm and amplify
Casriel (1972) and Janovs (1970) notion that the emotional trauma
of love deprivation during the developmental years is indeed the
basic emotional metatrauma. This led to a more precise notion of
what it is in the self that is disconfirmed. Clinically, emotional
traumas of a seemingly different nature are all ultimately reducible
to a simple, subjective metapremise: "I was not loved."
We therefore inferred the existence of a metaphysical "hard
core" (Lakatos, 1970), or basic informational premise of
the primeval self, which we termed the lovability principle (
Sousa-Poza et al. 1986). It is a probabilistic concept, characterized
by an exceedingly high level of certainty (100%) on the part
of the child that he or she will be mirrored back, unconditionally,
as a "right"
(unblemished) self, by the parental figures. Indeed, the subjective
sense of being lovable rests upon such recognition. Not only
is the child's entitlement to love total, but there is also no
record in the psychiatric literature of a child (with an undamaged
organism) not needing and wanting to be loved. To understand
the powerful pathogenic role of love deprivation, it must be
taken into account that not only does the child assign the same
level of lovability that he or she possesses to the parents,
but also, as Carl Jung (1938/1960) and the theologian Hans Urs
Von Balthasar (1988/1991) observed, the child is in love with
(devoid of any libidinous, sexual connotation), and in awe of,
the parents as if they were God in person. In the process, however,
the child becomes an extraordinarily vulnerable target for what
one patient has expressively termed "karmic hijacking." An
excerpt from one of her sessions (speaking as the child she was)
highlights these psychodynamics: "I love you [her parents]
as God, you are supposed to love me back, that’s how it
works! I'm SO MAD, you broke the deal and I could not take my
love back; I was stuck loving you!"
When Parents
Are Too Toxic to Tolerate
The Self as an Information System
and the Psychopathological Consequences of the Entropy Law
There is perhaps
no better scientific conceptualization of the self than that
of an information system that is liable to error. Granted, to
conceive of "me"
as an error is not as easy to grasp as recognizing that the
corrupted software of a computer is spewing out nonsense. Yet
neurotics spew out such "nonsense" mostly in their
intimate relationships, to the point of making them problematic
if not unworkable, because their perception of themselves and
others is subject to erroneous distortions.
Most important, such a conceptualization
implies that the self is subject to the second law
of thermodynamics or the popular law
of entropy (Rifkin, 1980). This law
rules much of the universe and, in information systems (Szilard,
1929), dictates the need for a supply of "redundancy" (in
the sense of "backup" or reinforcing information) if
the information system is not to reach untenable levels of entropy
(disorganization, dedifferentiation, etc., eventually leading
to dissolution of the self). In humans, such redundancy is provided
by parental confirmation of the child's lovability during development
and by the parental introjects and relationships with others
during adult life. The metapsychological antecedents of this
conceptualization lie in the concept of mirroring (Winnicott,
1971).
"Like the eye, the
self cannot see itself".
Children need a source of information confirming that they
in fact exist; that their parents recognize them. Confirmation is
tantamount to the statement
"Yes, I see and recognize you as lovable" being subjectively
experienced as "I am (exist)." In effect, confirmation
is "redundant" because it adds nothing that is not already
in the primeval self. It is, however, the necessary catalyst that
kindles the self to develop. We need that confirmatory backup much
as computers use "failover" systems in case a CPU fails
or needs repair, or nature gave us two kidneys in case one fails.
Thus, this notion of redundancy does not carry the usual meaning
of useless repetitious information.
These parental backup messages,
reflecting how the parents see the child, ultimately crystallize
into the subsystem of information known as the introject. The
enormous power the introject wields upon the self rests
on the fact that the former constitutes the latter's structural
pillar. Counterintuitive as this may sound, the self cannot stand
on its own. As a building rests upon its foundations or a bridge
is held in place by its suspended cables, the informational structure
that is the self is sustained by the introjects. That is to say,
the lovability principle is a necessary, but insufficient, condition
to attain selfhood.
Much as only nutritious food
is assimilated into the body tissues, only parental lovability-confirming
information can be assimilated by the self. Thus a positive introject
is by definition introjected; that is, it is almost totally assimilated,
becoming part of the self proper. A negative introject, in contrast,
is rejected, much as the immune system rejects a foreign body.
Parental disconfirmation, then, evolves into an encapsulated,
dysfunctional information subsystem that attaches to the self's
periphery, perpetuating the wronging process via innumerable
injunctions that remind individuals that they are "not good
enough," "don't deserve,"
''should try harder," and so on. Speaking as her maternal introject,
a patient of mine succinctly defined the basic paradigm of disconfirmation:
"To be yourself is not good enough for me."
By seeking confirmation for
itself (I’m better, that is 'more lovable,' than you"),
the negative introject sucks redundancy from the self, increasing
the latter's entropy. Clinically, it is an angry, parasitic information
system running parallel and attached to, the self—much
as a sea lamprey attaches itself to, and lives off, a bigger
fish or a computer virus attaches itself to key executable files.
Yet even if sick, the introject must be retained to provide structural
support for the self. Better to be the hostage of an angry, wronging
introject ("wrong-self state") than to have no introject
at all (akin to a catastrophic "no-self state"), which
leads to the late separation syndrome. A substantial lack of
positive introject means a frayed self in a high degree of instability
(high entropy), thereby generating the first psychopathological
consequence of disconfirmation: a state of fear, anxiety,
and tension.
A second psychopathological
consequence of disconfirmation stems from the state of
the self-introject relationship since it is a major
determinant of the default mood. If the relationship is on "good terms" (i.e.
loving), the basic mood is euthymic. If it is on "bad
terms"
(i.e. aggressive), the default mood is mostly dysthymic. The relationship
thus affects not only the experience of the moment, but also, ultimately,
the individual's perception of the feeling tone of the world or Weltanschauung.
By definition, neurotics cannot maintain their mind in the "love
mode" (the only state of peace and contentment). The sadness
of the unloved child evolves into the "dysthymic disorder" of
the adult. Both exogenous and endogenous events can exacerbate these
conditions, but it is the biological changes that reflect the precarious
information state of the self, rather than vice versa. Obviously,
there is room to postulate that the brain pathology that induces
neurotransmitter and other neuropsychological changes may also be
mimicking the neuropsychological condition generated by high self-entropy.
Primal Anger and the
Primary Fault or Fragmentation of the Self
Primal anger is a profound,
no-holds-barred type of anger, not unlike the anger harbored by
borderline personality disorders (Kernberg 1968, 1975; Linehan
1993). Such extreme anger is provoked only when the child's self-development
is aborted by persistent parental disconfirmation [physical, sexual,
mental and other forms of abuse included]. In the epitome of self-sacrifice,
the child negates his or her own existence to uphold that of a
false parental self. The ensuing anger, recoverable during treatment,
is often of murderous proportions because the child's emotions
function according to the "eye for an eye" rule. Since
in children the mental self is not highly developed, they are unable
to muffle their anger with rationalizations. But dependency needs
aside, the anger must be automatically repressed to yield "right
of being"
to the perceived parental godliness. To spare the parent then,
the child turns that anger against the self, becoming, consciously
or not, "no good." In effect, although children cannot
counterattack, they are outraged. At a deeper level, they know
they have been egregiously trespassed.
In consequence, a primary
fragmentation occurs, and the self splits into two fundamental
or
"tectonic" files. One file, with a "no access"
(unconscious) label, knows the self has been trespassed and is enraged.
The second file, however, the conscious part, "does not know"
that the malaise the self suffers is rooted in anger. Thereafter,
any further disconfirmation only adds to that primary fault, resulting
in the third psychopathological consequence
of disconfirmation: fragmentation
of the self. Anger levels, suppressed or not, keep rising. And even
when anger is to some degree consciously felt, the link to its tabooed
origins is mostly lost. Moreover, in adult life, primal anger is
usually displaced ("dumped") onto targets of opportunity.
Even when the disconfirmation has been carried out by brutal, naked,
physical or sexual abuse, and the child, as an adult, is aware that
she or he is angry with the parent, the full extent of the outrage
is seldom, if ever, fully experienced. Thus the verboten parricide
is transmuted later into homicide, suicide, or, under nefarious historical
circumstances, genocide. [It's chilling for mankind to realise that
a man as utterly deranged like Adolph Hitler could have climbed to
absolute supreme command that was at the time the jewel of the western
civilisation.]
Becoming "A Nobody." The
Introjects Angry Injunctions as Silent Hallucinations of LowSelf-Worth.
A fourth psychopathological
consequence of disconfirmation is low
self-worth. As an extension of the parental self, the dysfunctional
introject perpetuates the disconfirmatory process via negative
injunctions. The basic objective of defensive exclusion, as explained
later, is to prevent the self from gaining awareness of this
existential ruse and, in particular, from daring to target primal
anger against the parental introject. Having learned as children
to repress the anger and to yield right of being to the parents'
existence over their own, wounded adults may continue in this
vein by yielding such a right to others. Or, in numerous compensatory
maneuvers to become "somebody"
they may attempt [As Hitler and "great leaders" did
in modern history] to gain the lost terrain by trampling over
other selves. Yet they never feel genuinely entitled, no matter
the magnitude of their worldly achievements, because the silent
introject's voices constantly remind them of how bad and worthless
they are.
How's the water fish?
The introject's disconfirmatory
voices have not been considered severe psychopathology for two
reasons. First, the situation is pandemic. Most people suffer from
their effects, hence the predicament has become "normal." Second,
the "voices" unlike auditory hallucinations are not audibly
vocalized—although it is not unusual for the self to run
strings of such abusive thoughts. They are silent hallucinations, and
most people are unaware of their presence. Yet although no sound
is heard, the emotional consequences of the injunctions are constantly
felt as negatively biasing certain fundamental aspects of intrapersonal
perception, thought, and behavior. Heard aloud or not, it is hardly
a sane state of affairs for the self to confuse "them"
(introjects) with "me" (self proper). [Yet must of
us do.]
Cultures as Prescriptions
for Being and the Loss of "The Right to Be Right"
Neurosis implies a
loss of the innate, elemental right to be a right self. Without
thedisconfirmation that deprives the child of the right to be a
right self in relation to the self of the parental figures, there
would be no neurosis. In effect, the child would be incapable of
doubting her or his innate sense of lovability. The near sacredness
to which parenting, and family life in general, has been indiscriminately
elevated in most cultures since ancestral times guarantees that
the deck is stacked against the child. Succinctly stated, the basic
cultural neurotogenic premise grants right of being to the parent
by affirming, "the self of the parent is always righter than
that of the child."[fifth patological consequence]
Cultures preclude awareness
of the human wound because, aside from dictating customs and
mores, they also contain "prescriptions for being"(8)
(the cultural self), that "rub salt on the wound" by
siding with the introject's dictates rather than with the wounded
self of the child. They do so by feedback and feedforward mechanisms,
whereby the (mostly male) self imprints the culture which, in
turn, imprints the self. That is why the introject tends to contain
the same dysfunctional premises as those of the culture from
which it stems, and vice versa.
Confirmation and Disconfirmation. Information
about the Message (Content) versus Information
about the Messenger (Command).
Communication
theorists (Watzlawick et al., 1967) have accorded
great clinical relevance to the confirmatory-disconfirmatory
value of a message. They discern two parts to a
message; the content and the command. At the command
(self-data) level, the message is always personal
and never neutral. It carries an emotional, usually
nonverbal (tone of voice, setting, gesture, etc.)
valence that, I propose, confirms or disconfirms
the lovability principle. The fact that a message
is communicated mostly nonverbally accounts for
the surreptitious psychopathology of disconfirmation.
That is, what we don't say leaves no trace and
has little legalistic value. The command can, of
course, also be directly verbalized. [Be it as
it may all leads to the tacit acceptance of the
psychopathology of everyn day life "bening" when
in fact history shows, it has been castrotephic
for humanity.]
The content usually expressed
verbally, refers simply to what the information is about, without
further interpretations. For instance, if a friend tells you "I
own a Porsche," at the content level it means just that;
he owns such a car (neutral, impersonal information). At the
command level, however, the statement could have one-upmanship
connotations in a competitive relationship ("I'm ahead of
you on the social scale"). In effect, the command belongs
to a more abstract order called metainformation; that is, information
about information.
Neurosis as an Informational
Injury
Updating the nature
of the mother-child bond that was originally outlined in Sousa-Poza
et al. (1986), I can state that what circulates through that bond
is information. I therefore conclude that neurosis radically deviates
from all preexisting molds of disease by being an informational
injury. Hence, neurosis resembles more of a "software"
(informational), rather than a "hardware" (biological),
malfunction. However, persistent
software malfunction can induce hardware damage. Take the
instance of a computer software system beginning to overwrite
core system libraries or memory areas, thereby causing the system
to "crash,"
often with irreparable hardware damage.
It is highly plausible that
beyond a certain threshold of psychodynamic damage, and consequent
emotional suffering, the particular psychobiological makeup of
the individual, genetics included, is what dictates the type
of symptomatological clusters described in the DSM-IV-TR (APA,
2000). It is also possible that individual differences in sensitivity
to disconfirmation are biologically determined. But the fact
that appropriate medication can alleviate such symptoms does
not mean that the causative state of this misinformation of the
self has been corrected. In other words, lack of symptomatology
does not mean sanity, vitality, wisdom, happiness, or emotional
health.(9)
The Psychopathology of Self-Doubting:
The Neurotic Riddle or Informational Impasse
Disconfirmation is
a necessary, but insufficient, condition for inducing neurosis.
The second element is the immutability
of the lovability principle. This latter seems to be so critical to survival
that it is very deeply "hardwired"
- to the point of being seldom overridden, albeit often doubted.
This doubting, however, is pathogenic enough that patients
will require external therapeutic input if they are to recover
the notion that they are as lovable as ever. This is not an
easy task. Persistent disconfirmation shatters Ericksons sense
of "basic trust"
(1959). And the damaged, unworthy self learns to discount its
own lovability—never mind that it can never completely
accept that state of affairs. Much of interpersonal human behavior
is geared to seeking confirmation of one's lovability while
a lot of dysfunctional behavior is about squelching the thirst
for confirmation, often with culturally sanctioned substitutes
(drinking, smoking, overeating, shopping, overworking). The
goal is always to get rid of the distressful instability induced
by lack of full selfhood.
Unlike adult patients who,
when guided and supported by a therapist, can face the conclusion:
"I don't feel well, not because I'm bad, but because my parents
did not love me," children, whose emotional and physical survival
are at stake, cannot. In fact, children transmute that reality into
the basic alogical premise that wrongs the self; they auto-declare
their self de facto unworthy: "If they treat me badly, it must
be because I'm not lovable; there must be something wrong with me."
This erroneous conclusion arises because children cannot conceive
of being hurt by, and being angry at, the deified parental figure.
But nor can they ignore the insult. And it is here that the doubting
arises. A child's cognitive capacities cannot resolve the riddle
posited by the hardwired cognition "I'm lovable" and the
messages from the deified parental figures that contradict it: "No,
you are not!" And even if later as an adult the problem is figured
out at the mental level, this does not change how he or
she feels. This unsolvable discrepancy constitutes a Russellian paradox
(Russell, 1961), whereby the only way to "win"
is to step out of the game. Yet that entails either ignoring the
parental message—impossible for the child—or, in the
case of the adult, getting rid of the dysfunctional introject—again
impossible even for the most intellectually gifted of individuals
to accomplish without therapeutic help.
Inheriting the Human Wound: The Sacrilegious Taboo and Transmission
of the Virus
The "disconfirmatory
virus" is transmitted when wounded adults, who have not achieved
full selfhood because of lack of parental confirmation, become
parents themselves. Their overriding psychic need to surmount the
love deprivation state that prevents self-completion leads them
to reverse the flow of redundancy. Hence, they seek unconditional
confirmation of their own defiled lovability from the best and
most readily available source: their children. Even if,
at the core, children are aware of the travesty, parental deification
makes them the ideal propitiatory victims. Indeed, such deification
gives rise to the sacrilegious taboo that prevents that awareness
from prevailing. This taboo is so powerful that it silences primal
anger by labeling it "blasphemous." In the end, such
children never achieve full selfhood; as adults, they will likely
end up seeking the confirmation they missed from their parents
from their own children. It is a never-ending, vicious cycle.
[Over the centuries, this
"benign" psychopathology of everyday life has become a
tacit monstrosity that will eventualy derail the human mind to the
brink of destruction, if it has not already done so .]
The Architecture of the Self and the
Coding of Self-Knowledge
In the past models
of both the brain and the mind were often based on linear processing
devices such as computers. Recent belief is that the brain in
fact generates the mind (which in turn generates the self), and
that the whole system operates more like the Internet – constantly
reprocessing information that is stored in a very distributed
fashion. Current trends in cognitive neuroscience are to thus
base models of the mind on the brain, such as parallel distributing
processes, modal models, and connectionist models.
However, since nowadays elemental
computer concepts are familiar to the majority of readers, it
is conceptually and heuristically useful to use computer analogies
as clay models ("as if" constructs) to illustrate the
flow and storage of the information making up the self. Although
our initial data seems to support such conceptualization of this
particular function of the self, the terms "folders/ files"
or "software/hardware" are not used here to represent physically
locatable constructs (memories—both recall and encoding—exist
as potentials or processes) but are used solely in metaphorical terms.
Following thus the computer
constructs, the information making up the self is stored in three
"folders" depending on how such information is coded.
And that, perhaps guided by evolutionary processes, happens to
correspond to the evolution of three coding modalities: the iconic,
the analogical, and the more popularized digital coding of the
computer era. According to coding modality, these folders of
the self (from the most archaic to the phylogenetically more
advanced) are the somatoself, the emotional self, and the mental
self.
Thinking versus being:
The emotional self, the male-mind bias,and it's psychiatric
and socio-cultural consequences .
The term somatoself coined in Sousa-Poza et
al. (1986), denotes that folder of the self that contains
iconically coded information; The body is the iconic
representation of the self, the "me"
I see when I look at myself in a mirror. My name "Joaquin"
is my personal digital label, which is, to a large extent,
arbitrary. In the spectrum of similarity, a portrait
of myself bearing more or less a resemblance to me would
be my analogical representation. the emotional self,
the male-mind bias, and its psychiatric and socio-cultural
consequences. The emotional self the only folder not
explicitly described in Sousa-Poza et al. (1986), is
at the forefront of neurotic suffering and psychodynamics,
if only because neurotics are to a large extent emotional
orphans. It is in this folder that primal anger has been
stored with a "no access"
label. The information carried by emotions is expressed
and encoded in the typical more or less continuum (feelings
are not a yes-no proposition; they arise, peak, and slowly
abate) of the analogical code, as opposed to the all-or-nothing,
1-0 representation that characterizes digital encoding.
The sixth major psychopathological
consequence of disconfirmation is that
it stunts the development of the emotional self which, because
of a lack of backup redundancy, never achieves autonomy. Children,
not having differentiated from the parental selves (represented
later in life by the introjects), remain in a symbiotic state
with them. Predominant male-mind cultural values, however,
preclude awareness of that problem. It is possible to obtain
a university degree while being emotionally stunted. [And that,
as the Spanish physician and humanist Gregorio Maranon, said
: "The danger of our
times is that the barbarians (aliens to self-knowledge) master
the techniques.]
What I call the male-mind
bias arises from a peculiar distortion of the self, based
on the fact that a great part of a young boy's emotional self
must be silenced to fit into the mostly narcissistic notion
of "being a man". Women, historically perceived by
men as de facto lesser selves, can retain more of their emotional
expression, although they have long been penalized in matters
of power, status, and social rank. Preferentially silenced
in men, therefore, are the constructive (anabolic or "feminine")
aspects of selfhood, such as compassion, tenderness, [nurturing],and
other soft and "unmanly"
feelings. Favored are the hyper-developing, destructive (catabolic),
"manly" attributes, such as competitive aggression and
dominance to acquire power over others. Indeed, men soon learn that
crying is viewed as "breaking down," whereas "taking
it on the chin" or "biting the bullet" with "a
stiff upper lip" becomes, incongruously, highly commendable.
[In one word narcissism.]
This crippling practice,
as nefarious as the old Asian custom of foot binding women, creates
a severe emotional handicap in the male self. In effect, it generates
a contrived, contra natura false self that is corrupted by the
fact that many of its emotional subfolders read, "no access
permitted"
These deforming male-mind emotional values, which have had a negative
effect in psychiatry and psychotherapy, are, I believe, at the root
of Freud's abstinence principle of nongratification in psychoanalysis,
as well as the current penchant to attribute biological roots to
all psychiatric disorders.
The status of the emotional
self is downgraded. Male-mind thinking exalts mental abilities
(which bring power but not necessarily peace of mind) to the
point that, socioculturally, the mental self has become synonymous
with the self. It is understandable, therefore, that male-mind
psychiatry was destined to feel more comfortable with impersonal
techno/scientific solutions (to know how "to do," as
in prescribing medication) than with self-knowledge (to know
how "to be," as in practicing psychotherapy). In consequence,
the current psychiatric fashion is to ignore the biographically
rooted psychodynamics of the patient (informationalevents), focusing
instead almost exclusively on neurophysiological factors. Eventually,
however, for both scientific and clinical reasons, biological
and psychological psychiatry must converge so that psychiatrists
can understand how informational and neuropsychological events
interact. Besides, it may prove highly dangerous to tamper with
the hardware, particularly when, as James Watson noted: "How
the mind works... is still a mystery. We understand the hardware,
but we don't have a clue about the operating system" (Watson & Lemonick,
February 17 2003, p. 52). [Emphasis Mine].
The mental self and the false self. The
mental self (Sousa-poza et al., 1986) is basically digitally
coded and expressed in thoughts, words, and ideas. Yet the digital
code is detached in similarity [ and from ordinary reality] from
whatever it represents. For example, as Bateson and Jackson (1964)
have noted, names of objects have little in common with the objects
themselves; the word "dog" for instance does not bark
nor fetch sticks. In effect, digital information, although extremely
efficient in intellectual and/or material problem solving and
in understanding the outer world, is, in matters of the self,
the most removed from reality. To build upon the concepts of
Bateson (1972), we can say that the mental self stands to the
self as the map stands to the territory. [This , I believe, is
why reason and computers alone will never figure out the stock
market. Investing has a too strong emotional component.]
To understand the contribution
of the mental self to the psychodynamics of neurosis, three fundamental
considerations must be kept in mind:
1. While the emotional self functions strictly by the lex talion
(Judaic law of an eye for an eye) the mental self is above all a
"reasonable" entity because it usually functions via inductive
or deductive logic.
2. Whereas the emotional self is transcultural, the mental self is
not; rather than being hardwired, the mental self is formed by the
particular culture in which the child is raised.
3. The mental self is also the selfsubfolder that can be, and often
is, consciously manipulated to the point that references to a false
self, a well-known concept in the literature (Kohut, 1971; Masterson
& Klein, 1989; Winnicott, 1989), usually mean a falsified mental
self.
The unquestionable supremacy
of the mental self was summed up in the famous Cartesian dictum:
Cogito ergo sum (I think, therefore I exist; Descartes, 1637/1985).
In pure male-mind mode, thinking is confused with being. In fact,
however, the former is just one of thefunctions of the latter,
whereas being requires the full participation of all components
of the operational system: mental, emotional, and somatic.
In my opinion, this view
of the mental self has been a formidable obstacle to understanding
the self and the sciences of the mind in general. A better dictum
would be: "I am loved therefore I exist." As it is,
the role of the mental self in the treatment of neurosis, necessary
as it is, has been substantially overestimated. Unfortunately,
too, the dysfunctional introject yields not to reason but to
the brute force of anger (as outlined in the method section,
Sousa-Poza 2005).
All neuroses unavoidably
result in a form of aggression. Simply put, the individual is
forced to exact confirmation of a false self from others. If
the mirror (introject) is crooked, the reflection (the self)
cannot be straight. To spare the parent, children turn their "badness" against
themselves, concocting a falsehood so as to uphold the assumed
parental goodness: "After all, they did love me the best
way they could."
But whereas true love is unconditional, what usually passes for love
is highly conditional on fulfilling neurotic parental needs. Ending
up saddled with a false self is the sixth psychopathological consequence
of disconfirmation.
The Mind's Firewall:
Defensive Exclusion. Protection from Emotional Trauma by Fragmentation
of the Self
Like water and oil, differently
coded information does not mix freely but has to be translated
or converted from one code modality into another, much
as a converter permits Microsoft Word to work with documents
originally written with WordPerfect. A crucial characteristic
of neurotic states is that they interfere with the intercode
free flow of information (analogical-digital-iconic translations)
and, insofar as all files pertaining to a particular message
cannot be integrated, its contents cannot reach correct meaning
within the screen of consciousness.
For a message to be thoroughly processed
and to generate adequate meaning, the experiential triad—so
named by Ahsen (1968) and composed of elements similar to the
three coding modalities defined here—has to remain intact.
Such is not the case when the message severely affronts the lovability
principle. At that point, the defense mechanism known as defensive
exclusion is deployed to intercept and neutralize the message
by preventing full processing into its conscious meaning.
Defensive exclusion fragments
the self.
The information payload
is scrambled into "packages" according to their coding
modality. For instance, anger is stored in the emotional self with
a "no access" label attached and, if the destructive
potential is high enough, another file is stored in the somatoself.
This latter induces psychosomatic symptoms, as is often the case
with the pelvic area pain experienced by sexually abused women.
Unable to access the information, the mental self arrives at an
erroneous meaning about the event. Thus the child is spared the
full impact of the trauma, although at the cost of fragmenting
the awareness or informational integrity of the self, as well as
falsifying ("corrupting") the indexing of self-knowledge
by misclassifying the disconfirmatory message. To quote another
book title from Alice
Miller (1980/1983), the child logs the insult
in the "for your own good" index. Or, better
yet, as we said somewhere else (in the first of the three papers) "the
insult remains forever engraved in the somatoself)".
Not by chance Alice Miller's last book carries the title "The
Body Never Lies."
(The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects
of Cruel Parenting. Alice Miller. 2005. Norton Paperback.)
Contamination of the Present by Automatic Downloading
Given that biographical
information stashed away in the emotional self is analogically
coded, its files are indexed by "look-alike" similarities;
that is, similar files of biographical events are indexed closer
to each other than to dissimilar ones. In clinical practice, whenever
individuals encounter a situation in life analogous to the infantile
one, the contents of the historical "no access" files
are triggered, provoking an automatic, involuntary download into
the experience of the moment; thus the mind is tricked into believing
that the anger-triggering aggression stems, not from the introject,
but from the "outside," from the person(s) being related
to. This contamination, the seventh psychopathological consequence
of disconfirmation, leads to misinterpreting the intentions of
others which, in turn, severely interferes with relationships of
any type. This also lies at the root of the iatrogenic "transference” phenomena
provoked by the psychoanalytic treatment setting itselfBecause
of corrupted indexing, neurotics tend to misread the command. It
is pathognomonic of neurosis, in fact, to confuse the target (parental
figure) with the trigger (hapless human being in the present),
and to expect different results from consistently repetitive behavior. Indeed,
we remain, as Alice Miller so accurately termed the phenomenon,
"prisoners of childhood" (1979/1981).